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“All things were created by Him and for Him…and in Him all things hold together” (Colossians 1:16b-17a). Having a successful marriage first requires you to understand what God had in mind for marriage. After all, If you want to understand the purpose behind an invention, you consult the One who invented it, right!

Since marriage is God’s creation, He is in the saving marriages business. God created marriage for three very specific reasons, just like He created you, for very specific reasons. Our lives are more satisfying when we cooperate with God in fulfilling our purposes. Marriage is no exception…

First, you’ve probably learned that men and women were made in God’s image (Gen. 1:26-27). But, did you know that within the marriage relationship husbands and wives also bear the image of God? They do this by demonstrating love and faithfulness to each other…like God does with us. You see, God covenants with His people, husbands and wives covenant to each other and God. So marriage was created to reflect God’s faithfulness in the world.

The second reason God created marriage was to meet human needs. Needs for food, shelter and clothing as well as needs for love, acceptance, intimacy, and faithfulness. In that way marriage is a picture to the world of how God provides for His people.

Marriage is God’s conduit for love. It was designed to be a safe harbor where a man and a woman could be totally naked and unashamed. A place where they could experience the unconditional love and acceptance of God through each other.

Third, marriage is one of the ways God expands His Kingdom and accomplishes His work in the earth. He commanded men and women to go forth and multiply, be fruitful and take dominion over the earth(Genesis 1:28).
Unfortunately, it is very difficult to do as God commanded when you are at odds with your spouse. Conflict drains our emotional and creative energies. Sadly, many husbands and wives feel like they are sleeping with the enemy instead of with their comrade in arms.

Marriage was designed with unity in mind. When a husband and wife are on the same page, so to speak, they are reflecting the unity of the Godhead. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). Unity is so important that Jesus told us it would be a great sign to the world testifying that He truly is the Son of God (John 17:23).

Okay, now you have the general idea God had in mind when He designed marriage, but saving marriage requires a plan.

First, you need to decide, once and for all, are you going to commit to honoring God through your marriage. Are you going to do it God’s way? Are you going to trust His word, His plan and His design? If you answered yes, let’s move on…

If you’re making a plan to improve or save your marriage you need to start out on the right foot. That means getting right with God and your spouse first! To get right requires humility. It requires taking responsibility for the negative, sinful things you have contributed to your marriage without justifying yourself or blaming your spouse.

Confession of sin can be a turning point in our lives. It means we are in agreement with God about our sin and we are choosing to turn away from it. When we do this, God’s word promises to give us the power to accomplish that. Some of the things you may want to consider confessing are: the ways in which you have not trusted and honored God, the ways you have not obeyed His word, the consequences of your choices to you, your spouse and your marriage.

Exercising humility is a crucial part of any saving marriages plan. Making confession of sin a regular part of your marriage will keep you humble and help to maintain emotional intimacy. Apologies go a long way in keeping our hearts pliable and loving towards our spouse and God.

The next step in the saving marriages blueprint is making a plan for knowing your spouse’s most important needs. You also must become intentional about meeting those needs. Your spouse will feel more connected and in love with you when you are meeting his/her most important emotional needs.

Regular prayer is necessary for a successful marriage. Pray that God would show His love and faithfulness to your spouse through you. Prayer is how we experience the personal relationship we have with God through Christ. It is also where we avail ourselves to the grace of God. Therefore, your plan for saving marriage must include daily prayer for your spouse and your ability to love them.

A marriage that reflects God’s image is a safe marriage. God is our refuge, therefore your marriage should be a refuge for both you and your spouse. A safe relationship is one where both husband and wife feel accepted even if there are disagreements. A plan for saving marriages needs to include a plan for safety. Neither spouse should ever have to worry about the proverbial nuclear bomb being dropped on them!

That’s why a plan for saving marriages must address conflict. Your marriage can be free from condemnation, contempt, critical attitudes and defensiveness. It’s your choice! It can be a place where you are quick to take responsibility for your own actions and slow to point your finger of blame. It is not, however, a marriage that is free from conflict. But, yours can be a marriage where both parties fight fair.

Finally, your saving marriages plan needs to include specific goals, goals that are written down. After all, God wrote down His plan…we call it the Bible! Isn’t that a good enough reason for you to write down your plan for your marriage. Written goals are powerful. They help move a plan into motion.

Keep in mind, your goals need to be consistent with God’s purpose for your marriage. Your goals will help you stay on track and give more purpose, meaning and direction to your marriage and family life. You may want to have goals in the following areas: Spiritual (we will study and pray together regularly), parenting (we will always be unified when disciplining the children), finances ( we will decide on a budget and stick to it), health (we will exercise regularly and eat right), communication (we will speak lovingly and respectfully to one another).

Well, that should be enough to get you started developing your own personal saving marriages plan. Remember, the Creator of marriage is in the business of saving marriages. Put your hope in the Lord for with Him is unfailing love and full redemption (Psalm 130:7).

WHAT MARRIAGE IS NOT…

Marriage is not another life.
Marriage is not leaving God in the lurch
Marriage is not a union of two equal partners
Marriage is not about being persistent
Marriage is not what your mother or father told you
Marriage is not an affair or guess work
Marriage is not an escape route or to change your negative self image
Marriage is not for comparison.

It is commonly believed that a man with solution never tells you things that are convenient for you. A successful day is born in a night time; a successful marriage needs to be planned for and the plans worked at because failing to plan is planning to fail while failing to implement the plans is worst than a night mare.

For a marriage to be really successful, the two people involved must put in their best. Marriage is a holy institution ordained by God. It is said to be the only game where both partners either win or loose.

Marriage is not another life:There should be no pretence in marriage, you are either in the union or you are not in it. There is no sitting on the fence about it. You still are your very self, you have not changed because you got married so don’t look at yourself as a foreigner that doesn’t even understand the foreign land he is visiting. What changed is your status not yourself; what changed is your name not your dreams, what changed is your location (if you moved from where you were residing before) not your aspirations. Don’t go about acting funny and strange because you got married, if you become a stranger to yourself, it will take you a while before you come to term with this stranger and that time of studying your “new self” should have been allotted to something more useful. You are still you and living the life God gave you, marriage doesn’t change that.

Marriage is not leaving God in the lurch:God is the vital part of your marriage because He is the Party that completed the third side of the triangle that represents marriage. Leaving Him out is signing for outright failure. He instituted marriage, He knows the ingredients to blend and it will come out sweet. When you don’t love God, you lust for evil, when your love for God reduces, your taste for evil increases. More of God in your marriage will result to less of self; make your home all of God and none of self so your union will be blissful. Adam failed because he accepted self that Satan offered him thereby rejecting God, when a man backs God, he faces wilderness even in his marriage.

Marriage is not a union of two equal partners:Christ is the Head of the man and the man is the head of the woman in marriage. The woman is taken from the man’s side, made from his ribs close to his heart to be loved and close to his arms to be protected. There is no human being that has two heads so a home shouldn’t have two heads. The woman is not taken from the man’s head to be above him neither his legs to be trampled upon. They are not equal, if you enter marriage with the concept that you are equal partners then you have been misguided. You are not opposite of each other rather you complement each other with the higher percentage coming from the man, never forget this.

Marriage is not about being persistent:There should be flexibility in marriage, don’t make hard and fast rules that cannot be bent; that is they are either obeyed or broken no bending! In as much as there should be integrity and serious mindedness, there should equally be room for flexibility and relaxation. Try not to be unreasonable. For instance, you may have made a rule that none of the parties involved should disburse funds without the other’s knowledge and one of you was pressed to do something with money and actually did so before coming to inform you, listen to him/her first before flaring up. If it was for a just cause, you don’t need to react negatively; you don’t need to be insistent on the rule you agreed upon. Be flexible even amidst the laid down rules and principles.

Marriage is not what your mother or father told you:Marriage is a union between two people; it is what both of you make out of it. The only other Being permitted to be part of the union for it to work out well is God. Don’t carry the negative stories your mother or father (as the case may be) told you or painted for you about marriage to your union. Whatever they told you was their experience and not a yardstick for measuring a successful or otherwise marriage. This journey is what you should embark on with only God as your teacher, guide and counselor, any other suggestion or counsel that is against God’s word is coming from an intruder, it doesn’t matter who is giving it, he/she is an intruder so just accept their counsel and treat it like a gum-chew it and spit it out, never swallow it. You married a child of God, made in His Image, a child of destiny, an heir to the Monarch of the universe; don’t reduce him/her to a commoner because of the negative experiences your parents told you of. Remember your joy, happiness, success in life and marriage is your sole responsibility, nobody has that luxurious ability to make your marriage a success except you. Remember it is better to work on your marriage and get it working than leaving it and going into another one for you may still encounter same challenges in that second one.

Marriage is not an affair:Marriage is a union between two matured minds- a man and a woman not between a boy and a girl, two men or two women; God created Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden not Abigail and Eve or Adam and Steve as one preacher puts it. Marriage is not an affair it is a union of responsibility designed for companionship, fulfilling each other’s divine destiny, serving God better and giving your children the divine blue prints for their lives. It is not a trial and error business; it is God’s plan for man not man’s plan for himself so it is and should be treated as a serious relationship not an affair for meeting the insatiable needs of man. Watch your words and actions in this union, weigh them with God’s principles found in the Scriptures, God has a lot of interest in this relationship. It is not a guessing game; it is a union where both parties are responsible and committed to the course of making the union successful. Remember this is the only relationship that was likened to Christ relationship with the church; the church is always referred to as the bride of Christ and men were told to love their wives as Christ loves the church.

Marriage is not an escape route:You don’t get married because you want to escape from your parents, siblings or even yourself. It is not because you want to change your negative self image neither is it because you want to escape from an unhappy home, responsibilities or challenges at home. If you marry for the wrong reasons, you will end up enduring your marriage instead of enjoying it for marriage is meant to be enjoyed not to be endured. Plan your life in a way that you won’t be looking for escape route from yourself or people around you. Add virtue to yourself and when you do, you will definitely attract people who will value you as well, those who will recognize your worth and respect you for it. It is your sole responsibility to make yourself happy and worthy to be appreciated, no man will place value on you not even your spouse if you devalue yourself. Don’t debase yourself thinking “someday I will get married and it will be all over”. Marriage won’t end your pains and sorrows if you didn’t deliberately I mean consciously worked towards a life free from sorrows and pains. Believe this: marriage can even add to your problems if you step into it with the wrong mindset, wrong orientation and wrong footing.

Marriage is not for comparison:You are not getting married to change your spouse by comparing him/her to other fellows for any reason at all. If there is anybody that needs to change in that union, it should be you. What concept do you have of your union and your spouse? What picture do you have of your partner and your union inside of you? Always have and keep the correct picture of your partner and union because he/she will always live up to your expectations and pictures of him/her. Comparison is a game for fools and nobody wins in this game. You are all different entities on different missions and assignments so there should be no basis for comparison. Don’t compare your spouse to this fellow or that fellow. Allow him/her be who he/she is created to be.

Now marriage is…

Having someone to curl up with when the whole world seems cold and life uncertain.

It is wrapping wrinkled knees in warm blankets and giggling without teeth.

It is looking into your spouse’s eyes and see that you mattered.

It is a union for people bound to be united.

It is marrying your heartthrob not for how he/she looks or how talented he/she is but for love.

Marriage is hope fulfilled and dreams come true.

We have seen many online fishing dating services booming on the Internet in the last few years. Many popular fishing dating web sites offer 100% free fishing dating services which help many online fishing singles to find love and romance without a fee. That’s wonderful, isn’t it? Some fishing dating services provide free membership for a limited time but some fishing dating sites offer free for a life time to the members. There are pay fishing dating services that were created long time ago and they charge members some fee a month. Big fishing dating services have the amount of joined members to two million and the number of members are going up. We can see how on line fishing singles and fishing personals like fishing dating services on the Net.

The main purpose of online fishing dating services is to provide single men and single women to know each other on Net. Some fishing dating services focus on specific area, such as Northern America, UK, Russia, Asia, or Europe regions, and there are fishing dating services are world-wide. Single men and single girls can meet thru the on line fishing dating sites for friendship, relationships, or marriage. On line fishing singles, in a moment, can see other fishing personal ads in front of computer. Registering a profile takes a few minutes at these fishing dating sites and we recommend that you upload your photo to increase your chance in getting more attention from other members. 

The old saying said that one picture worth thousands words which is always true. When a member look at your photo, they will contact you right away if they are interested in your photo, without reading all the information you write on your profile. So, posting your profile with a picture or two photos increase your profile values. Usually, online fishing dating services have new members on the homepage, which have newest members with photos. Profiles without pictures are usually not displayed on the front page of these fishing dating web sites. Let us put it this way, when you search for a profile, you always look at profiles with pictures at these fishing online dating services. Statistics usually shows that profile with pictures are viewed much more than profile without pictures on these fishing on line dating services.

Selecting the best online fishing dating services that matches your dating style is not easy. Some members use their photos that they took 20 years ago to post on the on line fishing dating sites to attract on line fishing singles. So, you sometimes get surprised when you meet some specific members in person. So, before make decision to meet that specific person that you know on these fishing dating sites, make sure you ask for their latest photos. Some on line fishing single dating services generate thousands of marriages a year, you need to try to find a perfect member. There are single men and single women are waiting to meet you at these fishing personals dating sites.

So, are you ready to meet your other half? do not wait. Take action now. Join these fishing dating services and meet that special soul mate of your dream.

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Where do you go when you are looking for love?

Are you considering joining an online dating site but not sure it’s for you?

Let me tell you how I first discovered online dating and why I firmly believe it fits in with our modern day lifestyles.

A couple of years ago online dating still had a stigma attached to it. Although people were using the internet as a method of dating, they did not discuss it with friends or colleagues for fear of coming across desperate.

I recall a friend of mine who was initially embarrassed to tell me she had joined an online dating site. At the time, I was rather surprised as she was an attractive girl who would be considered quite a catch. However, after chatting to her I completely understood why she had resorted to this method of dating; she was simply tired of meeting timewasters who were not interested in committing to a relationship.

Whilst she had no desire to date some of the men who contacted her, there were quite a few she was interested in and she began a dating spell to make any “singleton” jealous. She then struck up an online relationship with someone who lived 100 miles from her. After exchanging many emails and chatting on the telephone, she decided to meet him. Obviously, the distance didn’t make the relationship ideal but the spark was there and she enjoyed 6 months dating someone with similar interests, shared romantic weekends together and had a fantastic holiday. Although he didn’t turn out to be “the one”, when I asked if she regretted joining an online dating site her answer was “Definitely not!” Her view was that if she hadn’t joined an online dating site, those 6 months would have been spent moaning about meeting the same timewasters in the same old haunts and wondering “what if”. She was simply being proactive in her search for love; after all life is far too short!

If you’re not convinced online dating is for you, here are 11 reasons why I think online dating has its advantages:-

1. You don’t have to wait until the weekend to meet someone.

2. You don’t have to get dressed up for a night “online”. Wear whatever you feel comfortable in at home.

3. If you work unusual hours online dating fits in with your schedule. You can log on at any time of the day to suit you; there is always someone online waiting to chat.

4. If you start chatting to someone and then decide they are not what you are looking for, put them back in the net gently and choose another. There are plenty of fish in the sea!

5. If you are tired of seeing the same old faces when you go out, there are people of all age groups all across the country waiting online to meet someone.

6. If you are new to an area online dating is a great way of meeting people whether it’s for friendship or dating. If you meet a few people online in your area, you can arrange a get together for you all rather than meeting on a one-to-one basis.

7. If all of your friends have settled down or you have recently become single what better way to meet new someone quickly than to go online and meet more singles!

8. Anonymous messaging and chat rooms let you flirt to your heart’s content without any embarrassment or getting tongue-tied.

9. You will probably find out more about someone online before you arrange a date with them than you would if you had met them in a bar. Online dating usually makes people more cautious about who they choose to date and in this day and age that can’t be a bad thing!

10. We now live and date very differently to previous generations where the traditional place to meet people was in nightclubs, parties, at work or through friends. By joining an online dating site you are not excluding these avenues but simply extending your opportunities of meeting someone.

11. Finally, 1 month’s membership costs less than a night out and gives you hundreds of opportunities to meet your perfect partner – every night!

With so many positive reasons to go online for love, finding your perfect partner has never been easier. Try it out for yourself and please let me know how you’re doing.

Read more about Online Dating at: Online Dating Guide Blog

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The main thing about a Gothic style wedding rings is that they are darker than other wedding rings, but they carry amzing look and appeal. There are many reasons why you should choose Gothic style for your wedding rings. Many Gothic wedding rings carry emotional value with them, in their look, and in their meaning too. People truly fall in love with the style of this rings.

You have to search a lot when you are looking for a Gothic style wedding ring. First of all you have to decide whether you want any color in your wedding ring or not. Even plain looking Gothic wedding rings are available, but there are some with red color mixed in. You know the power of red color, and tthat’s the reason why it is used in some Gothic rings. You can also find rings that have red gems in them. In Gothic wedding rings, you may also like to have some diamonds studded in there. Remember each style of Gothic rings has a different meaning. You have to know what meaning it carries before you order a ring.

Some Gothic wedding rings have writing inscribed on them.When you flip the ring upside down, the writing says something different. Mostly it is completley opposite of what it said on the other side. For example, on one Gothic ring, you can see the word “life” written on it but, if you look at the same word upside down, then you can read “death.” Now you might be thinking that this is not a sensible wedding ring, but the meaning is deep. It means that newly wed couple is going to love each other throughout their life and also in death.

There are different Gothic style wedding rings available. Your need to find one that conveys your feelings for your lover. These are rings that appeals you with in-depth meanings, and it is one of the best wedding gift that you can choose.

The main thing about a Gothic style wedding rings is that they are darker than other wedding rings, but they carry amzing look and appeal. There are many reasons why you should choose Gothic style for your wedding rings. Many Gothic wedding rings carry emotional value with them, in their look, and in their meaning too. People truly fall in love with the style of this rings.

You have to search a lot when you are looking for a Gothic style wedding ring. First of all you have to decide whether you want any color in your wedding ring or not. Even plain looking Gothic wedding rings are available, but there are some with red color mixed in. You know the power of red color, and tthat’s the reason why it is used in some Gothic rings. You can also find rings that have red gems in them. In Gothic wedding rings, you may also like to have some diamonds studded in there. Remember each style of Gothic rings has a different meaning. You have to know what meaning it carries before you order a ring.

Some Gothic wedding rings have writing inscribed on them.When you flip the ring upside down, the writing says something different. Mostly it is completley opposite of what it said on the other side. For example, on one Gothic ring, you can see the word “life” written on it but, if you look at the same word upside down, then you can read “death.” Now you might be thinking that this is not a sensible wedding ring, but the meaning is deep. It means that newly wed couple is going to love each other throughout their life and also in death.

There are different Gothic style wedding rings available. Your need to find one that conveys your feelings for your lover. These are rings that appeals you with in-depth meanings, and it is one of the best wedding gift that you can choose.

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In the crazy world that we are living right now, everyone wants to be him self and express his identity without being judge. There are places and even times that people choose to hide their true gothic being, because they are afraid of what the society will think of them and maybe find them exiled.

While this might not be true for most of the gothic people who just waiting for the chance to show everyone their gothic lifestyle, some might find the answers on the internet. A gothic dating site for example is great place to meet other gothic people that are hiding their identities from society. In fact I think that most of the people are more real on the internet than on the real life. The internet anonymity provides them a great mask, but from the other hand they can really be them self – a real gothic person behind the computer.

If you have a special lifestyle than you know how hard it is to find a person within the same subculture. But thanks to the internet your chances to find gothic love is much higher. I remember how I used to live in a small town where everyone knows everyone. Sure it has some good points regarding intimacy interaction between the people, but from the other hand you don’t have too many options. This is why people who loves to meet new friends are moving too the big cities.

If you are looking for true gothic love then an online gothic website is the best solution for you, you will find there people that live the same way you do, and maybe for the first time of your life you actually find your other half. Like minded people relationships are always last long and with a little luck, even forever!

Friendship is considered to be one of the best relationships to have in your life. An ideal friend can make your life very fulfilling. In contrast, a friend that brings you down can distract you from the path of prosperity and can make your life more difficult. This is the reason why the deep meaning of friendship is quite complicated.

The basic definition of friendship will vary from person to person. People usually define it on the basis of their attitude, knowledge and personal experience.

It is a fact that there are some people who along with their existing friends prefer to make more friends. It is now quite easy with the help of internet. Looking for friendship online is surely a fast and precise process. It is very ideal if you find a site that offers what you are looking for. 

There are a large number of friendship sites available that allow you to easily seek for the best girl friendship via the internet. If you are looking to find the site that best provides a great search for best friendship then Chummychums is believed to be the right option for you.

There are some of the reasons mentioned below on the basis of which it will be quite justifiable for you to understand why this site is an unavoidable option for you.

Ø      Trustworthiness: while looking for friendship it is imperative that you should sign up with a site which you can trust. Chummychums is becoming one of the most recognized names in the online market for women seeking friendships. You will be able to connect with women in your local town and start forming a great friendship.

Ø      Chat facility: this is one of the unique features offered by this site. With the availability of chat facility it will be quite convenient for you to go for better girl friendship. It is one of the exclusive features which you will find only with top online sites only.

Ø      Goodwill: Chummychums is a site which is holding a sound goodwill in the market right from the beginning. In today’s competitive market it is not that much easy for an online site to maintain a strong goodwill in the market for a very long period of time. When a visitor visits online looking for friendship, most of the online sites try to attract him or her with different features and claims. It is not that much difficult for a rational customer to understand the real difference between what is claimed and what is actually offered.

Ø      User friendly: Chummychums is a site which is really friendly to the user. A user with basic knowledge of the internet can easily become a member and search results for girl friendship. The entire procedure of signing up is clearly specified. 

 So, these are some of the features associated with Chummychums which can offer direct benefit to the users looking for friendship. If you are really seeking for girl friendship then Chummychums is definitely the right option.